Dating Tips for Entrepreneurs
In early January, Netflix’s Black Mirror aired an eerie episode called, “Hang the DJ.” The premise of this episode is a great metaphor for today’s world of dating. Early on we learn that the two main characters have been paired together by a dating algorithm, where each relationship comes with a predetermined “expiration date.” As you scroll through Tinder matches and check out those cute mutual Facebook friends, it can certainly feel that the new age of dating is a technologically enabled revolving door. But with the following tips, maybe you can break through and get your dating life moving forward.
Check your mindset.
Before you download the apps or scour the bar scene, take a moment to check in with yourself. Your dating mindset can deeply affect your success rate making it difficult to connect with potential partners. Assess your dating readiness. Are you prepared to put the necessary time, emotional energy, and money into this investment? Are you feeling self sufficient or are you seeking a partner as an outlet? The life of an entrepreneur if often one of ups and downs. It’s important to accept this and refrain from dating as a means to add stability to your life.
Be open about your time management.
You’re busy. Not just 9-5 busy, but always working on the next thing. Entrepreneurs tend to work anywhere between 60-95 hours a week, which leaves very little time for dating. No matter if you’re only looking to date similarly busy individuals, you need to be open about what your average work week looks like. Finding a partner might mean finding someone you can enjoy co-working with as much as canoodling. But, you won’t know if this works for you or your date unless you discuss.
Keep it conversational.
Shaking off the work day doesn’t always happen easily. But, it’s important to take the time to do so. There’s nothing worse than forgetting to code-switch and accidentally talking to your date like a coworker or employee. First dates are especially opportune for this—the inclination to fall back on “interviewing” is strong. While it’s normal for the entrepreneur to ask a lot of questions, it might feel one-sided and uncomfortable for your date. Remedy this by keeping things moving organically back and forth as much as possible.
Don’t talk too much business.
This may seem obvious, but hindsight is 20/20. When you’re proud of the work you’re doing, it can be hard to slow down and realize just because you find it interesting doesn’t mean your date will. Let your date ask you questions about your life and livelihood, but don’t go on a diatribe about the merits of Soylent or your cross-fit membership.
Know how you’re stereotyped.
Sure, we can joke about meal replacements and going to the gym, but these are real stereotypes that face the young entrepreneur. The reality is, you’re a person working actively towards a dream. Don’t let the stereotypes slow you down. Keeping them in mind can help you actively fight them as you move through the dating scene.
Have you had luck finding balance between entrepreneurship and the dating world? Do you have any tips or app recommendations that you keep in your back pocket? We’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.